Stars Can't Shine Without Darkness

People around the world are still reeling from the unexpected death of legendary actor and comedian Robin Williams. He was found dead Monday, August 11, of an apparent suicide. Most of the world was shocked by this. We knew that he had battled drug addictions over the years. But overall, he "seemed" so healthy and happy. 

Welcome to the world of depression and mental illness, folks. Others see you as completely happy and "together". But those suffering from mental illness are fighting a battle within themselves. A battle from the feelings of isolation, loneliness, desperation and utter hopelessness. Often people don't seek help because they don't want to burden those around them. Their mind is skewed. They can't always see that they need help. So they fight this battle alone, until they reach a breaking point of no return and do the unthinkable. 

Suicide is NOT a selfish act for sufferers of mental illness. In their minds, they have burdened their loved ones so much that suicide becomes a selfLESS act to them. All they know is that they are hurting so much on the inside and they want the pain to stop. They want their pain to stop. They want the pain to stop that they believe they are causing others. So suicide becomes their only option. 

People that don't suffer mental illness will never understand what it's like to suffer from chronic depression. Just like, unless you're in a wheelchair, or have cancer, you can't truly understand that. But a little empathy goes a long way. You can't just pray it away. You can't just "decide to be happy" and POOF! You're happy again. Depression doesn't work like that. If it did, it wouldn't be a disease. 750,000 people attempt suicide every year. 30,000 will succeed. It's real folks. Depression is real! Educate yourself. Chances are, with those numbers, you know someone that has tried, or succeeded to commit suicide. Maybe it was you that tried.

We can help each other though! There are signs that you can look for. 

50-75% of people who attempt suicide will tell someone about their intention. Listen when people talk. Make eye contact. Convey empathy. 

Check in on friends struggling with depression. Even if they don't answer the phone or come to the door, make an effort to let them know that you are there. Friendship isn't about saving lost souls; friendship is about listening and being present.

Reach out to survivors of suicide. Practice using the words "suicide" and "depression" so that they roll off the tongue as easily as "unicorns" and "bubble gum." Listen as they tell their stories. Hold their hands. Be kind with their hearts. And hug them every single time.

Encourage help. Learn about the resources in your area so that you can help friends and loved ones in need. Don't be afraid to check in over and over again. Don't be afraid to convey your concern. One human connection can make a big difference in the life of someone struggling with mental illness and/or survivor's guilt.

 You can learn more about suicide and prevention at http://www.afsp.org/preventing-suicide/risk-factors-and-warning-signs